Affection, reason and law coexist with contradictions and conflicts in China society, which has been shown in every aspect of social life. As the three main dimensions of work of college counselors, affection, reason and law often cannot all be taken into account, and sometimes one is emphasized while others are ignored. From the connotation of affection, reason and law, this paper cleared the misunderstanding of the relationship among the three in the work of counselors, and find out their interoperability and combination points, to help counselors carry out student work conforming to affection, reason and law.